4 Ways to Write About Love

Valentine’s Day was earlier this week. For me, it was an opportunity to think of the people I love. I sent cards to my daughter, son and older granddaughter. (My second granddaughter is 5 months so I figured she would not be upset if she did not get a card.)

I got to thinking about writing stories of our love lives. What’s your story? Where to start? What to tell?

1. As always, write a Memory List. The list is one of the most important tools you can use to facilitate and deepen your story. On page 41 of Turning Memories Into Memoirs, I include much information about writing a Memory List. )

It was truly a gift to read Turning Memories Into Memoirs / A Handbook for Writing Lifestories at the very time I was beginning to write about my life. I was refreshingly surprised by its grounding premise that everyone has stories, and that with some tools, anyone who wants to can write. I have recommended your book to all my writing friends. — Maura Murphy

2. Include details that reveal character or personality. There is so much to write about so why not choose salient and pertinent details that reveal something essential about your loved one and about your relationship. The same is true about you and your role in that relationship. Details go a long way in showing your story and averting telling it.

3. Put in your doubt and difficulties with the relationship. Too many love stories are sugar coated and become hard to believe. It’s as if you are making something up and the reader is not about to believe you.

4. Submit your love story — and the moment when things changed — to the forthcoming Soleil Lifestory Network’s anthology,  And That’s When Things Changed / Stories of Decisive Moments. Please take advantage of this offer to get your story in the Soleil Lifestory Network Anthology .


About Denis Ledoux

Denis Ledoux began helping people to turn their memories into memoirs in 1988. Denis was named Lifewriting Professional of the Year by the Association of Personal Historians in 1996. Today, Denis is a writer, educator, teacher, autobiography co-author, memoir-writing coach, editor and publisher. He directs The Memoir Network, an international group of memoir professionals who use his method and materials to help people write lifestories. Denis also offers writing tele-classes and leads memoir writing tele-groups.
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